Asking for Help
In our previous blog post, we discussed how loved ones could help those going through anxiety. In part two of this series, we are going to focus on those with anxiety and how to ask for help. When it comes down to it, no one can read our minds or assist us in the way we want to be helped, unless we ask.
I suffered for years in silence and isolation, only a few people in my life knew what was going on. I kept it that way because I was confused and embarrassed by having anxiety. I was ashamed anxiety was taking over my life. Anxiety landed me in the emergency room multiple times, kept me home while my friends were out enjoying life and made me feel like I could never accomplish anything. I felt so disconnected from my life; I was supposed to be excited to go to college, meet new people and to explore the world around me, but all I could focus on was getting through the next panic episode.
I got to a point where I stopped leaving the house; I would call my mom crying every day for fear I was dying because my heart was racing so fast; I thought my heart was going to stop. I was done, I was done living this way and having anxiety control my life. The first time I asked for help was when I was 17. I asked my mom to get me into see a therapist and after trying out a few, I saw my first therapist who helped me immensely with my anxiety.
Asking for help is not in my nature, I like to do things on my own or figure out how to solve issues without asking for help, but even me, Type-A, ambitious Amanda has to ask for help. Remember, asking for help does not mean you are weak.
Three tips for asking for help:
Make a list. Write down what you need help with. Sometimes to help alleviate anxiety, we need help with daily chores and tasks. Ask your partner to pick up groceries this week while you take a yoga class or ask a friend to bring you take out one night so you don't have to worry about cooking and can focus on relaxing for an evening in.
Think about the people. Many of us have people in our lives that are helpful, supportive and loving. Those are the people we consider reaching out to when we are experiencing anxiety. Keep a few individuals in you phone who are useful when you have anxiety, even just picking up the phone can help to alleviate some anxiety.
Reach out and ask. Send an email, text or call someone you trust from step two and ask them to assist you with a task from step one. Taking the initiative to reach out to someone you know cares about your mental health will help strengthen your relationship and mental health in the long run.
Asking for help may not be easy, but it is a small step towards building a support network that will help you navigate your anxiety and aid you to stay mentally healthy.
Do you ask for help? If so, what are some tips you use? We would love to know in the comments!