How To Cope As A Highly Sensitive Person
If you are a highly sensitive person (HSP), you may relate to a few of these things:
· You get overwhelmed very easily, especially when out in social situations.
· Bright lights, loud or annoying noises, scratchy fabrics and other similar external things bug you more than the average person.
· When someone is complaining to you, you pick up all of their negative vibes and leave your get together in a bad mood, even if nothing is wrong.
· You’re very aware of subtle changes in your environment.
· You’re very sensitive to pain.
· You hate conflict and are very sensitive to criticism.
That’s right, we are going to talk about some of the not so fun things about being highly sensitive. Remember, the highs outweigh the lows because highly sensitive people are very creative, empathetic, moved greatly by the arts and feel positive emotions very deeply, etc. But, for this article, let’s focus on some of the harder parts of being an HSP and how to cope with them. Here are some of the ways I cope:
Don’t be afraid to ask for what you need or ask for what will help you feel better. If you can ask for the lights to be turned down or the music to be lowered, do so. The worst someone can say is no. If you are at a concert or somewhere that you can’t ask for your preference, excuse yourself if you need to. Sometimes it just takes a quiet few minutes to calm yourself down and re-join the activities. If noise is what bothers you most, try bringing earplugs or noise canceling headphones wherever you go.
However, sometimes an outing will be too much and excusing yourself for a moment isn’t helping. It is okay to leave! You do you. The right people in your life will understand.
Let it out. Some of us have been called “too sensitive” our whole lives and now feel the need to try to hold back our emotions. This will only make you feel worse. If you need to cry, cry. Trust me, you’ll feel better and it won’t be as embarrassing as you think.
Try journaling. If you are having a rough time with criticism and conflict, try writing down your thoughts and feelings. It can help to release your feelings and think about the situation in a different way.
Take care of yourself. Sometimes being tired, not eating enough healthy foods or not drinking enough water can lead to feeling more sensitive and irritable than normal. Especially when going out in social situations, make sure you have healthy snacks and water on hand to avoid any blood sugar rollercoasters which can evoke anxiety or crankiness.
Make time to decompress. Most HSPs need quiet alone time to recharge, especially after being social. Make time in your schedule to relax alone. Time in nature can be especially helpful when relaxing as a highly sensitive person.
Are you a highly sensitive person? What is your biggest challenge in relation to being highly sensitive? What is your favorite coping technique? Share with us below!
Written by Lauren Stewart. Lauren’s new e-book called “My Journey as a Highly Sensitive Person with Anxiety: How I went from an Emotional Mess to Confident Woman and You Can Too” is now available for order on Amazon! If you don’t have an e-reader, email Lauren on how you can buy a PDF version.